Sensory sex, everything you need to know about this practice
Latest trend in sexuality, if in recent years the slow sex was the favorite subject of explorers, now the sensory sex is at the heart of the conversations. But what is this supposed novelty supposed to reshuffle the cards of our relationships? Sex, yes, but by integrating the senses, all the senses. The sexologist Megwyn White popularized this way of making love, which, when you take a closer look, makes sense.
What is sensory sex?
What if, instead of chasing orgasm , we took the time to focus on these five senses? This is the postulate from which Megwyn White started, developing the idea of sensory sex. By bringing back sight, hearing, smell and taste, alongside touch in the sexual act, we could increase sensations as a couple or with several partners. A way to become aware of these forgotten senses, while accentuating your pleasure.
Using all of your senses before and during the act would create excitement through sight, smell or hearing for example. It could be listening to your partner sigh with pleasure, feeling their soft skin, touching them differently by trying new things. sexual positions … A powerful connection, which is often compared to a common trance. The body, mind and soul of the partners become one. It makes you want it, doesn't it?
How to try sensory sex and get away from mechanical and performative sex?
Sensory sex invites you to take your time. No more quick sex sessions, where penetration is at the heart of the relationship. From now on, we see our sexuality in full awareness and we open our five senses. To do this, set an atmosphere: dimmed lights with candles, background music that invites sensuality, culinary preparations to apply to you (like chocolate)... Perfumes and scents, hearing lulled by music and sweets for the palate without forgetting the sight and touch. You will have everything you need to revive your senses.
The other point on which the theoretical sexologist of sensory sex emphasizes is full awareness of our actions. Rather than doing things mechanically, feel them. A kiss calls for both touch and taste. A caress is about touch of course, but also about seeing the curves, or hearing when you cause pleasure to your partner. Feeling and being aware of these moments will increase the intensity and potentially increase the final orgasm tenfold.
Sensory sex: how to look at your partner?
Often, we tend to make love in the dark, yet sight plays a very important role in arousal. Of course, you are not going to turn on the ceiling light, it is not the most romantic thing, but remember to install a subdued atmosphere: candles, light garlands... Stimulate the view with dim lights or bulbs colorful. Also, you can play the game of voyeurism : offer to have fun alone and observe him/her. Finally, to increase the sexual desire by sight, watching an erotic film together while caressing each other might be a good idea.
Stimulate touch during intercourse
Touch is the most used sense during sexual intercourse. However, you can break out of your habits and find new ways to stimulate it. Use hot and cold and play with it to increase the excitement. Explore your partner's skin with ice, focusing on the erogenous zones the most reactive. Immerse yourself in a relaxing bath and treat each other to an erotic massage before deepening your intimacy. Finally, you can also buy erotic accessories (handcuffs, objects with feathers or velvet, an eye mask, etc.) to tie the hands, titillate certain areas, and rethink your sensations. Test massage oils that enhance the texture of the skin or nuru gel to literally slide over your partner's body. Be imaginative and try new sex games as a couple to spice up your lovemaking.
Focus on intoxicating smells to increase the pleasure tenfold
First of all, the smell of sweat can be arousing. Some people see their sensations increased tenfold by the pheromones released by perspiration. However, this is not the only way to stimulate your sense of smell. You can scent the sheets with sensual fragrances like vanilla or sandalwood. You can use oils to make a sensual massage by stroking your partner's back and pressing on pressure points that are just waiting to be released.
Sound to (re)discover sensory sex
During your hugs, focus on the sounds around you. We are not talking about the sounds of your neighbor's footsteps or the hum of your dishwasher, but rather about the breathing of the other, their moans , the words he or she speaks. To accentuate hearing during intercourse, the two of you can experiment with Dirty Talk , whispering exciting words or phrases into your partner's ear. Don't hold back your sighs, quite the contrary! They are a powerful weapon to increase desire and to signify your pleasure. Electrifying, they guide your partner towards what you like most.
Playing with your senses to explore your sexuality
Sensory sex invites you to take your time, to savor each moment, to live the moment intensely, in the present. It's a way to reconnect with full awareness during sex, to no longer simply be in the action and the quest for something (very often orgasm) but to live with two or more people, these few minutes or hours of pleasure. Almost like a session of sexual meditation , this other way of conceiving a relationship will connect the bodies as tantra could do, to climb the curtains through hearing, smell, touch, sight and taste.
